This is sort of a question to the older folks. But, I’d like to hear any and all thoughts.
I love my wife and we have a good thing. But we constantly run into this problem and it’s getting old.
In my younger years, when we first got together, I was trying new things and seeking out new experiences. As most people do. We got along well during our adventurous times.
Now, I’m getting older and I’ve found out a lot about myself. I know what I like. I know what makes me comfortable. I’m not completely opposed to trying new things. But I don’t need my whole world turned upside down every couple months.
Wife, on the other hand, craves change. It’s what she lives for. If a month goes by without rearranging a room or buying some new appliance. New shoes for the kids. You know this kind of person. Anyways, she gets depressed and moody until the next big change comes and she can turn into manic mom and start shopping, planning, executing the next change.
I could let it go. But, the shit’s expensive and it always drags me in. She’ll hang the new soap dish in the bathroom and be like: “Okay, now you need to install the new vanity, sink and mirror.”
I want to play mopeds and read a book. Enjoy the things I have. Not satisfy every whim of hers like the construction manager of that Winchester lady.
So, I don’t want to be an asshole. But she thinks I am because I’ve started saying no.
Does this keep getting worse? Can I enjoy my contentment whilst married to someone that has none?
Help me moped army, you’re my only hope.